Hey Stepfathers! What happens when everything seems to be going smoothly in the family, then all of a sudden you get ganged up on when your opinion differs from theirs? (in my case by my wife and stepdaughter--aka the Gilmore Girls).
Sometimes I really feel like I see their point of view, but it doesn't make sense to me. Then again, it's two to one! Kinda makes you think--am I really off base or are they just the 'Home Team". I don't necessarily want to figure this out, I just want to be comfortable with it. I thought it might change over time, but as we all get older I think we all get more opinionated. Maybe that's okay.
Dr. Rick
Monday, April 7, 2008
Hey Stepfathers!!
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Even non step families deal with this issue. it is a good question. All of us Dads could probably use some strategies to cope.
ReplyDeleteNeal
I wonder if a lot of the problem is male versus female communication rather than being a family bloc.
ReplyDeleteHave you read any of Deborah Tannen's books? Particularly 'You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation'? I wrote a blog post on her book a couple of days ago: http://familymatters.vision.org
It's amazing how women and men can misunderstand each other even when they're trying their best to be at the ideal in their relationships.
(Yes, my last name is really Stepp, and I have a brother-in-law named Rick Stepp. For just a second, I thought he had started a blog.)